Happy marriage




Do you know how to maintain a happy marriage or improve a marriage?

Research has shown that married couples who sleep on different beds/in different rooms actually have a happier marriage compared to those who share the same bed.

When couples share the same bed, they actually woke each other up for about 5-6 times in a night. It could be due to the sound of snoring or being kicked at by the other half. Often, they would get pissed off which therefore results in having some unhappiness between each other.

The most shocking thing is that the total amount of time from the lost of sleep due to all these can add up to 2 years. This is really long.


There is a real case where the wife actually divorced with his husband because she could not stand him for getting onto the bed only late at night because he spent a lot of time playing computer games. o.o For me, I really cannot stand my other half playing computer games or doing something which might affect our relationship because I will feel that the games and other things else are more important than me! =(

I wish to tell that man that, “Hey, you are married! You think you are still young? Think of your wife!” *shrug*


You see, in whatever you do, you have to think of your other half. It is much easier to love each other than live with each other. Well, human relationship is always the most difficult subject to begin with.


One more fact!
You may think that it is redundant to say “Thank you” or “Sorry” to your other half, you are so wrong then! If you do so, you may realise that your relationship with him/her may have strained. I think it is sweet to say “Thank you, my dear” because it shows him/her that you appreciate for what he/she has done for you. But, do not expect me to say that other than “Thank you” =/
It is important that you do not take your other half for granted just because you are the most person in his/her life. Know what I mean?


I know I might sound like one expert in this area but I am definitely not.


I think I will be a bad wife because I do snore when I sleep - not always and definitely not that loud. =D My parents and sis told me about this and a friend too because I fell asleep while studying and so he heard it. = p

On top of this, sometimes I wake up with all my pillows, blanket and soft toys on the floor except for myself. So, I am not surprised that I wake up finding my husband on the floor on the following day. Laugh-out-loud. I do not know why but sometimes I do fall on the floor while sleeping. The weird thing is my body seems to be able to detect it and wakes up on time or else my bones will surely break. When this happens, I would quickly wake up and jump on my bed to sleep again. Well, I usually jump flat on my bed and smile instead of taking my own sweet time climbing on my bed to sleep. *yawn*

That fall


Know what? 2 days ago which is the first day of my assignment I had a fall that for a moment; I thought I could not walk anymore.

As usually, I hopped/jumped when I reached the ground level of the escalator BUT this time round, I nearly sprained my ankle! It was so painful that I squatted at the side of the escalator before mustering my courage to stand up and walk to a seat to have a good look at it. Guess what? Some people saw it but NO ONE bothered to come over and ask if I was okay. You see! This is why I always feel that this world needs more people who are filled with compassion. But, courageous Chu Er did not even tear. However, she has to stand for 3days because of the nature of her job. =(

Frankly speaking, I thought of calling the office to ask for a MC but thinking of the pay, I bit my lips and bore with the pain and work! It was really very painful and my left ankle is still swollen. It better gets well before the dinner and dance! I know I look ugly so I do not want to look uglier if not I will be a spotlight on that night. =(


Recently, I am engrossed with a Japanese drama – not convenient to reveal it here but you can ask me! =) Anyway, I seriously think that they have improved a lot because their dramas used to be so boring.

As usually, it is a romance drama.

Then, I thought of what a friend said to me, “Guys are stupid.” For your information, my friend is a guy and he likes girls and in another word, he is not a gay. Get what I mean? Laugh-out-loud

He said that because guys usually cannot notice any hints from girls and we - girls - have to express ourselves like a book, i.e. easy to read and understand.

This is what happened in this drama! It is so obvious that the girl liked him yet he did not know! =(

Somehow, I think that girl behaved – I said behaved, not looked – like me. On top of this, I seriously think that I look like a fool when I fall in love, just like her. So, if you are a guy, get lost!

That show makes me feel like falling in love again and having a boyfriend. =D Rubbish, rubbish.


Can you be my boyfriend?
Just kidding~
You?
Wait for a million years, huh!

A meet-up


I think I had been quite blur for the past 2 days.

On Monday, I took the lift down as usual. When the door of the lift opened, to my surprise, the level panel showed “level 20” when I was supposed to take down from level 6. O.O

Yes, the lift which I took travelled up but I did not realise it at all because I assumed that it would bring me to level 1. -_-“ (There was a man in the lift)

I started to blame myself till I finished my work at the tuition centre because I was late for 15 minutes. Of course, my managers would not scold me because initially I told them that I would reach at 7p.m. so meaning, I still reached earlier.


Yesterday, I excitedly wanted to drink a cup of green tea so I made myself one. As I still wanted to do my work, so I left it there. When I took the cup, I immediately wondered why it was rather cold. In a split second, I realised that I actually pressed for the “cold water” button instead of the “hot water”. Another intern student and I started laughing at it. I dared not drink it. That intern student said that it was tasteless.


Anyway, I finally met up with my friend after about 2.5 months. To me, it seems like eternity. We kept talking and talking till we did not really realise where we were going. We really talked about anything and I liked it! =)


She and I. Can you believe that she is 5 years older than me? She looks so young. Envy! =(



While looking through the folders of pictures in my computer, I saw these pictures of my sis and I which were taken in Jan 08 where my fringe was still quite short and messy.




For the past few nights, I kept having weird and bad dreams. What are they? =(


I realised that I am just numbed but not nonchalant about it. Only then, I realised the pain and hurts, really. But, somehow, I never really regretted about the decision I made. It is supposed to make us happier. *tight Hug Chu Er*

Oh gosh. I am falling sick. I feel like I am dying again. =( Dear Lord, please don't.

3 simple steps to fall in love in 34 minutes


What is written here is based on a study. You may think that it is crappy but it is proven. =)


1. Get to know a complete stranger
2. Talk about your personal intimacy activity with each other for 30 minutes.
3. For the last 4 minutes, stare into each other’s eyes.


If you think that particular girl/guy is not bad and feel that it is a pity if you do not fall in love with her/her, you can try doing this. = p


Based on a statistics, 2 out of 20 people who eventually fell in love with each other by doing these 3 steps; got married.

It sounds so unbelievable but is a fact. =)

Pictures of the day.. =D

As i had nothing much to do while waiting the time to pass so i decided to take some pictures. = p

It is really time to wipe my mirror. =x

Some people mention that I look differently in most of my pictures. I totally agree. Ha

Someone helped me to take this. =D I was not supposed to take a photo in there, anyway. = p

I went to an Open House of a School. You can easily spot handsome guys, not exaggerating at all. Unlike my current school *shrug* I think guys from my current school are going to shoot me to death. = p


Guys who are a turn-on to me - I really mean turn-on but not criteria for my future boyfriend:

-Looks cute and cool! If you can read my mind, you will know that I am actually jumping, screaming and shouting when I see one. = p

-Good figure i.e. muscular and properly shaped but not that exaggerating till I feel so scared that I dare not get close to him. I seriously can go crazy even though I will not scream out.

-Knows how to sing. Melt me, melt me.

-Knows how to play guitar. To me, it will totally melt me down if he were to play it and sing a song to me at the same time. Whee~

-Prefers outdoor activities and has sportsmanship.

-Knows how to cook. =D Whee~ I love to eat but I think I have talent in cooking. I am just plain lazy to cook and learn how to hold the knife properly, etc.

-Knows how to write poem. =D To me, this type is very romantic! =D

-Knows how to make me laugh and smile. =D This type totally makes me happy.

-Talks more than I do. I usually prefer people to talk more than I do even though I can talk non-stop at times. =D I believe that you learn more by listening compared to talking, really.

Dear Lord, on the count of 3, please make him appear in front of me.

1..

2..

3..

*TING*

*Open my eyes*

"Eh..Nowhere to be seen"

The Lord says "No one wants you because you are not qualified to be with any at all"

*Chu Er sits here and cries out loud*

Happiness


Happiness is something which everyone is chasing after for. But, as you chase after it, the further it runs away. It should come naturally just like you smile when you are happy.


Today, while having lunch with my colleagues, I got to realise something. A colleague who was in the same school as me in Kindergarten, Primary School and Secondary School, said that she remembered that I always participated in any sports events like sports day. That moment, I was quite shocked as we were not very close which made me goes “Huh? Really?” and gave a wide smile. I never expected her to remember much about me but she actually remembered something which might not be particularly obvious to many others. Actually, a lot of people do not really believe that I am someone who prefers outdoor activities. So, she made me feel happy and touched. =D


Today was very busy at work. 3 people were sick so I was alone managing at the ‘dependent’ side i.e. a section where the kids are all very young, not even attended primary school yet. If you deal with kids before, you would know that some kids can be very impatient. When they want something, they actually want it RIGHT NOW. You can try ignoring them and you shall bear with the consequences.


This was what happened. I was really busy trying to finish marking their practice papers and on my left, there was this little girl who kept asking me questions. On top of this, 1 kid after another kept asking me questions that I nearly thought that I made a mistake by writing the scores on another student’s book. Yes, I was panicking as I wondered whose question to answer first. o.o


I was very thirsty too. Why?


1. That girl on my left kept asking me the same question. Please do not misunderstand that I was losing my patience. Never was I. =) She was only about 3-4 years old so learning numbers which consist of 2 digits would be quite tough. She was learning numbers from 20-40. When it came to 30-40, she was so confused that I had to use different ways to explain to her. Really, it is never easy to teach kids of tender age. In the end, she understood but she kept asking if the answers were correct. I personally felt that she knew how to do but she was just not confident at all. I felt a sense of achievement as I am getting better at teaching kids. =D


2. I was to guide a little boy in counting. It was very difficult to get his attention but still managed to do half of the worksheet after that, he ran away. O.O He just did not want to sit down. When you asked him to sit down and do work he would say “I don’t want”. =( Anyway, even the manager could not manage him too. Not long after, his mother came. They were all quite worried about him as he just did not want to sit down and learn. Then, the manager said that if he knows how to count at his age, it is good enough. So, his mother immediately took that set of worksheet to ask him to count. He knew everything which I taught. I was really so happy. Before his mother left, she said with a wide smile “thanks a lot, you tried very hard.” Really, I was so happy and touched that my efforts were being recognized.


To me, it comes really rare. Many times, I wonder if people recognize and appreciate what I have done. This comes especially important to me because I have very low self-esteem. I guess this is why I would spend time doing a card writing many thanks to the person on his/her birthday to show that their efforts are well paid-off.


3. A cute and sweet looking little girl was asking mathematics questions which were like “5+8, 6+7” To us, it is definitely very easy but to a little girl/boy like her who had just started to get in touch with numbers, how would it be easy? We all take a step at a time, so does she.


Wait; let me tell you how cute she was. She was supposed to stand at my side to listen to my explanation. However, in the end, she automatically sat at the side of my chair i.e. shared a chair with me. I was quite stunned. Look at me, I look so kind and friendly, how would I ask her to get off? = p So, I just adjusted my seat to let her sit more comfortably. She was so cute. *pinch pinch*

She spoke very softly. Compared to her, I am definitely like a giant which is much taller than her and speaks much more loudly.


Later, she came to my side again. I thought she might want to ask me some questions so I just conveniently asked her “yes?” in a nice tone, of course. Then, she asked if she could go to the toilet. Like usually, I would look at the student and answer “oh. Can, can”. But, after about 5 seconds, I realised that she was still at the same spot so I said “yes, you can go.” Then she said in a very soft tone which should go “I don’t dare to go to the toilet”. So I went “huh?” before understanding.

In the end, I had to go into the same cubicle as her. o.o Sounds like I am a pervert. But, think again, I have what she has but I am more developed. =x


Back to the main point. In order let her understand how to do questions like what I have mentioned, I really had to go one step at a time. For example, I would ask her “what is 8+1” instead of “8+5” because she just could not get it. She asked me at least 6 questions and I could only increase by 1 or occasionally 2 at a time if not she would not know how to do.

Something which made me feel happy about is that she had most questions correct out of 100 questions i.e. less than 10 mistakes and she did the corrections by herself. =D A sense of achievement.


4. A little girl made me repeat a phrase over and over again. Imagine a booklet of 10 weeksheets with 20 pages in total and with about 2 phrases on a page and I had to repeat at least 3 times to ensure that her pronunciation was okay and also to get her attention as she kept playing. Yes, I can be very patient.


5. Many kids asked me questions so I kept speaking and speaking. Ha
Yes. These are the four reasons which made me so thirsty today. Ha ha. But, it was all worth it. =)


You know, even though I usually feel very lethargic after my internship, but I never once thought of quitting my job at this tuition centre – of course, as a human, I do complain to myself but at the end of the day, I would feel that it is all worth it. =D


Why?
All of them are very nice and friendly.
You would not feel afraid to ask question or your questions are being ignored if you do. Even if you have asked before, they would still teach you patiently.
They treat you with humanity. They never once use any mean words on anyone.
Most importantly, I know what I am doing and not working like a robot doing what others tell you to.


All these traits are so opposite of a place. Sigh.


I feel kind of happy today because a number of people made my day. This is what I call 'simple happiness'. =)

Random


I think lately I have been blogging a lot that I really think that I have been writing rubbish. My brain is just not working well again. =( Am I drunk? I am not but my brain is. *shrug*

Nevermind. Even the weather is going against me. It rained on days which should be my running days. When it was not, it did not rain at all. Sigh.

At least, I tried running about 3 km. The funny thing is even some people who were older than me, ran past me. I guess like what had been commented, I run with very small steps. Chu Er shall improve very soon but I really wonder how to run with big steps? In order to know, I kept observing how others ran. I am NOT a pervert but just want to learn to be a better runner.


Looking at how my holiday flies, my life is going to be resumed to normal very soon. Actually, I think I keep complaining about it to myself everyday. Of course, I am not going to do it here.


No inspiration, just rubbish.

I hope that everyone is doing fine.

If you were being locked in a prison of your own, how would you get a key to unlock it?

I think like what I have read it from somewhere, I must treat myself better and more gently, give myself credit for doing something well and not keep scolding and blaming myself. I must be more confident. I must, I must, I must!


Lastly, I did say in my previous post that I do not really like to communicate through 'dead' devices but...How should I phrase it? Sounds contradicting? What I want to say is I do not mind as I will not be as bored. Help! How do I let others understand what I really want to say?



Good night all! Don't let the bed bugs bite!


Rain, rain, please go away.

I hate myself today. =( I realised that I am really not lovable even though I love to say I am to make myelf happy or rather a fool.

Simplicity


Simplicity is beautiful. I am trying to search for simplicity in my life. Can it be found? I guess it can never unless I change the perception of life. Life is too complicated and frustrating at times that I wish to raise my white flag.

One thing I sometimes like about myself is that I actually smile, feel touched, get excited and feel happy over something very simple.

Sometimes I really do wish to move so far away from the city. You may ask who does not. The question is; do you have the courage to?
I have. I am willing to give up everything which I have now i.e. my qualification, my computer, my hand-phone, etc. I know that I can be much happier and get more in touched with life. I actually do not really like the idea of messaging through hand-phone and other “dead” devices if you get what I mean.
I like to talk with people face-to-face – in fact, it is a lot – because I can get to feel the person – use your heart to.
Because I am living in a city, I have to accept all these by doing so. But, seriously, do you find it hard to say some words to your friends or anyone when you talk with each other face-to-face? I do and I do not like this feeling. I like it when you enjoy the silence with each other but this comes really, really rare.

Anyway, I actually felt quite glad and happy over 2 things today.

One, I managed to handle my task relatively well without much guidance because my supervisor has just left my company and the only person who knows the product/service in my department was on MC. It also shows that I can do it and have overcome my fears. =D

Actually, I realised that when I am dependent on people, I really am. Like when I am cold towards someone, I really am.

Second, I realised that in these 4 weeks of internship, I did not wear the same outfit – except for my bottom – except for about 2 times. It actually shows the number of tops I own. I know that most of the time I do not wear appropriate outfit to work because I hardly own any. = p Yes, I am happy over that I did not wear the same outfit. If only I have 365 sets of outfits. O.O I am definitely dreaming. =D

A friend actually wished me lots of luck in love. Luck, I need you a lot. Perhaps, I should go for match-making soon. Ha.

Does anyone of you have the urge to hug yourself at times? I DO! =D I am not being a pervert. I feel even more when I am down and wish to hug myself tight and tell myself that “Hey girl, you will be fine! I will be here for you!” = p. Because no one has ever done this to me so I have to. =D Of course, there are some sweet friends who sometimes remind me that they will be here for me no matter what - Please do not hug me without giving me any advance warning. I will freeze - (Chu Er, you think that you are playing the game 'ice man'! What freeze?)

Shall we give Miss Lim Chu Er a kiss? OH YES! She deserves it. MUACK! Good night sweetie love. =D


A crazy girl needs to be loved too!

You may call me Summer.

I start to like Sunday because it is the only day whereby I need not work. It feels so great not having to wake up by my alarm clock to work. Is this simple happiness? =)


I actually look forward to Sunday because it is a day whereby I can go for my run but the weather is going against me by raining! =(

Well, I will look forward to Wednesday evening then. =D

Actually, I did not know it is the raining season now until I asked my sister. =/

I wonder if everyone feels the same like me because I tend to feel emotional when it is raining and start to think even more than usual. This is why I often prefer summer so to enjoy the bright and warm sunlight that is embracing me and this is also why I like Sunflowers. =D

想问一声：“你还好吗？ 习惯吗？”

Lately, I actually collated the reasons of me crying.

I tear when:
I am sad
I am scared
I feel helpless
I am too angry
I am very happy
I laugh too hard
I miss some people so badly
I think of some unhappy memories
I see that others – anyone - are happy
I watch performances especially great ones
I am feeling very terrible i.e. not feeling well
I cannot figure out why some unwelcomed events take place
people - anyone who has crossed my life - whom I know passed away
I actually did something which I never thought that I could make it
I feel touched especially when reading a book or watching a movie or drama
I see a guy and a girl are finally together – usually when watching a movie or drama
I am scolded by people – actually usually, it is the tone which is too harsh for me to take it
I realise that a guy/a girl is not together with the person whom he/she loves so deeply – usually when watching a movie or drama




It seems that I cannot get away from crying. It is part and parcel of my life. Ha. Yes, crying cannot solve any problem but it seems to be the only thing which I can think of to do. =/

HELP! Why is it raining? =(

Joy (xi1).Anger (nu4).Dejected (ai1).Happiness (le4) - basic emotions




Today, I am not going to write any long entry about our basic emotions



but..



PICTURES! = p
Those who think you are going to puke by looking at lim chu er, the crazy's pictures, I shall bid goodbye to you.


but..


let me remind you..


you are going to miss out the fun. (eh..I think more people are leaving..=/)


HAHAHA. I know most of you will have a great laugh when looking at some pictures. Just go ahead, I can take it *beating on my chest*




This represents Joy.
I think I do this quite often. =D



This represents Anger.
I am ugly enough so do not provoke me or else I will look like the above. =( I know that I can be very scary and fierce when I get really angry.



This represents Dejected.
Most friends will not get to see this side of me. So, if you did, you are very lucky! = p



This shall represent Happiness.
Take note that I emphasis on the word 'shall'; meaning there are more pictures for this theme. =D



Because recently I have been doing quite a lot of drawing and colouring so I decided to use one of the colour pencil boxes to do this. = p


This is the last one. =D

And, I have one more. Lets put it under the theme 'monkey face'

One of my strengths is to make faces at people. Another useless strength of mine. =(



Special thanks to my camera for the self-timer to be able to make this entry a success. =D (laugh-out-loud)